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When life confronts us with evidence that there is a gap between who we perceive ourselves to be and who we really are, we have three possible choices: 1- change who we are to match our perceptions, 2- change our perceptions to match who we are, 3- deny there's a conflict. 

I have, at various times, tried all three strategies.
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